Hello and welcome to a piece of
peace. Your weekly dose of motivation and inspiration. Today I would
like to share on the topic, “lose the battle but win the war”. I read
somewhere, a quote by Donald Trump a couple of days ago, which said,
“Sometimes by losing the battle, we find a new way to win the war”. I am
often asked by a lot of my students (yes I still teach, I run a
homework club for some amazing students) how to cope with failing exams.
They usually have high demanding parents who expect nothing but 100% in
all grades.
Understandably, they are paying high
sums of money for tuition in private institutions and extra classes with
the view of equipping their children with the tools to access Ivy
League’s and top education institutions in the future. In short, there
is no room for academic failure. In fact failing academically is
tantamount to failing in life and for these young minds, that pressure
can be quite exhaustive sometimes. I tell these students the same things
I tell my girlfriends who are going through difficult times in their
lives. Endure the down moments life throws at you, because once you go
as low as you can, the only other way left is to go back up again.
Failure is simply a process.
I have noticed a
couple of things in my short years of existence. Firstly, as a race, we
are obsessed with being number 1. So much so that we actively go out of
our way to pull each other down, all in an effort to vie for that
coveted position. My friend called me this morning, complaining about
how badly her friends were treating her, now that she had turned her
financial battles around. She has spent a long time being on the broke
side of the success wall and all of a sudden, she has managed to turn
things around to get herself a house and her dream car, a range rover.
In
church, she overheard a couple of friends talking behind her back,
accusing her of doing unscrupulous things to get her newfound wealth (is
it just me, or does a weird amount of gossip sessions happen in
church?). This really broke her heart, as the people who were talking
about her, were really close friends. Sometimes you never truly know who
your friends are until you hear what they say behind your back.
Everybody is nice and lovely when you have something to offer them or
something they need. Also, people are keen to support you when they know
how far you can go.
Once you start showing them
that their expectations or limitations, which they have placed over your
life, is false and start overachieving, that is when they gang up to
tear you down. If you are victim of such a situation today, do not be
discouraged. It means you are on the right path. If your dream does not
cause people to hate you, then you are simply not dreaming big enough. A
sign of mediocrity and complacency is a situation where you have so
many “friends” who all support you and are seemingly happy to be around
you. The road to success is not meant to be fun. If it was, a lot more
people will be walking that path as we speak.
There
is a reason why only few people make it to the top. Sometimes you may
feel like you are losing. Sometimes everything may go against you and
the words or actions of people can bring you down and even cause you to
lose things that you deserve to get. Do not worry. That lost battle is
to show you how the enemy works so you are better prepared to win the
war. Do not let the disappointments caused by other people break you
down and keep you enslaved to misery. It is only there to teach you what
you need to do next. Learn from that lost battle. The success road is
not over yet and the lessons we pro actively learn about failure are
designed to help us become overcomers in the future.
And remember always to be yourself, because everyone else is taken.
Much love,
Peace Hyde.
Peace
Hyde is a British — Ghanaian television presenter and actress. She is
the host of popular celebrity talk show The EFGH Show.
Twitter: https://twitter.com/peac_hy
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